She doesn’t know what to do, and she has all these feelings, but things are just not happening.
She was talking about it to absolutely everyone, and just felt like things could change.
Basically, in a nut shell, this guy was just an asshole to her for a week, and since it’s been a while that she’s had a guy interested in her, she wanted to hold on as long as possible.
Everyone wanted to be positive for her. They told her to just let things cool down a bit, and see if he comes back around, etc.
Finally, I asked her this: If you had a daughter, and she came to you with this story, what would you tell your baby girl?
You and I know – right now – through all the relationships we’ve been through – no matter how complicated – shit just got real when you bring your baby girl into it.
She said, “I would tell her to move on.”
So, I looked at her and said, “Then move on.”
Naturally the story all began to change.
Now it turned in to, “Well, she’s going to do what she wants, and she’s going to have to learn from her own mistakes.”
I just looked at her and said, “Well I hope your learning.”
As a girl, I always wanted to keep the faith.
I was always hoping he would call. I was always hoping things would change. I was always dreaming it would be different and better.
What I failed to realize, is that love is not all that complicated. You either want to be with someone, or you don’t.
If he wants to be with you, he will find a way to be with you. If he finds excuses for why he CAN’T be with you, then he just doesn’t like you.
That is something I always found so hard to believe. I would always say, “Well, that’s not true, because if he has to go to football camp, clearly, he can’t just up and leave.”
I would find every way to rationalize it. But that was for myself. Those were the hard lessons I learned.
If my baby girl came up to me, and said that some guy hasn’t called her in 3 days, what should she do?
I would say to forget the stupid fucker, and let’s go shoe shopping! I DO NOT want my baby girl waiting for a phone call from some stupid guy!
It was time that I wasted, and made myself feel bad about, when it was never my fault to begin with!
So if you are in a situation, and you aren’t sure what you should do: Think about what you would tell your baby girl. Or, if you’re a guy, think about what you would tell your son.
Do you want your son acting like an asshole? I surely hope not.
If you tell your baby girl, “I’m sure he’s just busy, wait it out a little longer. And when you see him next, pretend like you were’t waiting by the phone.”
Then your baby girl is going to have a very confusing love life. You know you’re baby girl is beautiful, and worth spending time with. If he doesn’t realize this, and doesn’t want to hang out with such an awesome girl. Then he’s not worth your daughter’s time.
And the next time you end up in a situation regarding love, or a guy situation, or whatever it is you want to call it, ask yourself: what would I say to my kid?
Then you will see the world change.